We boarded the sky link at DFW
airport. It had been a long day of
travel for my husband and I. We
headed to the back of the car, leaned against the window, dropped our heavy
bags.
I looked up to see a young woman; early 20’s step in the door. She turned her back to me. She was brightly
dressed in cropped pants that showed interesting tattoos on the back of both
ankles. Her neck had a long tattoo, there were a few others. Her lobes had
multiple earrings. She was listening to her iPod.
She paid no attention to us. She
bothered no one.
If I sound vague to her tattoos and
adornments it is because I was. It isn’t something I stare at. She wasn’t
bothering me. She didn’t smell. She wasn’t rude. She was appropriate in
behavior.
I glanced to my left and was surprised
at what I witnessed. A woman,
making a face, while pointing her bright red fingernail at this young woman. Pointing. She poked her husband and he
agreed, at least in facial gesture that he too, was disgusted. My mouth fell
open. I was appalled at their behavior. I don’t expect this from adults.
The young woman didn’t see them, but
I did and possibly others. They were bullies and it was ugly. It was rude, impolite, shameless, and
insulting.
They continued mumbling, in their
displeasure. I did not like these people.
My mind was thinking… Lady, you have
got to be kidding me. You have no reason to make fun of someone else. Did you look
in the mirror before you left the house today? You look like a washed up 1980’s
cocktail waitress from Atlantic City.
Long, bleach blonde ponytail pulled to
one side with a pink bow. High heels and tight pink pants… Walmart called, they
want their Poly and Ester back. Did I mention she was 65 if a day?
These thoughts permeated my mind in
seconds. I didn’t have to work at this. It’s evidently a gift. I looked around.
Was someone judging me, for judging her, for judging the first her?
This is getting weird. And did I just
bully her in my mind? Am I as bad as them?
What if the girl with the tattoos smelled?
Would I judge her then? What if she acted weird, by my standards? Would I judge
her then?
Tattoos don’t bother me, it’s a
personal choice. My son has a tattoo. I hope he doesn’t cover his body with
them, but if he did would I still love him? Would I judge him or bully him?
Would I call him names because he has an earring, or two? No, a thousand times
no, and if you did, I would hurt you.
Bullying is so common we sometimes
don’t recognize it in ourselves. We feel superior; we use our strength, our
influence to intimidate others.
Judging is even easier. We form a
bias, a personal opinion. We draw conclusions, sometimes without reason. It’s not our concern; we don’t know all
the facts. It’s usually none of our business.
I still don’t like this couple. I
believe they were dead wrong. If they had made a scene, I would have stepped
in. I will always step in when I see someone being picked on. I despise the
bully mentality.
Many years ago, one of my kids was
being bullied. A mean kid, trying to intimidate another kid. My kid. This child
had a reputation for bullying. I found myself in the company of said child for
a few short seconds, alone. Yes, I am that good.
I looked said child in the eye and
said, “Child, this behavior will stop, now. “ The child looked at me, tears
welling up and shook head. It ended that day. Could it have gone another way?
Sure. I took my chances and it worked.
I would do the same for your child.
I learned recently that people who
get involved in situations, sometimes dangerous situations, those who are willing
to take risks… they see themselves as people who can make a difference. They
see the outcome as positive. It never occurs to them that they will not
succeed.
One example they used was a woman who
witnessed a truck accident one morning on her way to work. The truck was on
fire, lots of smoke and flames. It had just happened and she knew she was the
first one on the scene. She ran to that truck and pulled the unconscious man
out. She saved his life, single handedly. She makes me proud.
Would I have done that? I hope so.
Shouldn’t I know so?
I recognized bullying and judging
that day in the airport. I also recognized things about myself I did not like.
I wasn’t so different than the finger-pointing woman.
I hope I would pull someone out of a
burning building or vehicle, I also hope I would stand up for my fellow man
and woman when I see them being treated wrongly.
I believe we are called to that, no
matter the color of skin, the clothing we wear, or if our hair is a bad shade
of bottle blonde.
God loves them as much as He loves
me. Let’s let the fine art of bullying die and practice the fine art of
gentleness, kindness and mercy.
What an awesome article...
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